Stop a Breakup by Avoiding These 2 Mistakes
Most people out there don’t have a clue about how to stop a breakup. You really can’t blame them. I mean, there are no classes in school that teach us how to have successful relationships. Instead we just end up reading a copy of Moby Dick or proving that, yes, gravity still makes things fall down. But I digress… Here are a few common mistakes women tend to make that only hurt their relationships.
First is taking him at his word. Know that most of what people communicate is subconscious. If you and your boyfriend are fighting or even just had a breakup, keep in mind that chances are he still does love you. It is important to pay more attention to what he does more than what he says. Yes, you may have just broken up and you he may have just moved out, but that doesn’t mean that things are necessarily over.
Things may seem bad, but odds are still good that he still loves you and has a lot of feelings for you still. Chances are he doesn’t even want to really breakup with you at all. It is never too late to heal the wounds of the past, stop a breakup, and start over with a clean slate. The first mistake is to actually believe that it is over.
This ties into the second mistake that women make. If you actually take him at his word and believe that it truly is over, you will feel absolutely horrible. You will feel hurt, betrayed, heartbroken, and many other things. You may have trouble sleeping, spiral into depression, and have trouble just getting through the day at work or school with out bursting into tears.
The worst thing you could possibly do when you are in this state of mind is to contact your ex. Chances are your thoughts will be filled with the urge to send him long emails about how hurt and sad you are, call him repeatedly and beg for him to take you back, or text him non-stop. This sort of behavior will not stop a breakup, it only makes things worse.
Don’t do this. I repeat, do not do this. This will only drive him further away and hurt your chances. You see, most relationships end because one person is frustrated with the other and just needs some space to think things through and reassess life. When you are constantly contacting him and bombarding him with phone calls, you are not giving him the space he desires. His natural reaction is to pull back and distance himself further. Not what you want. Give him space to be with his thoughts. You would be surprised at how this alone will stop a breakup. When you give him space, he may realize that he actually does want to be in a relationship with you and he’ll come back.
These two mistakes are the most common ones I see in my friends that are having problems with their relationships. Remember that in most cases he still does love you and still wants to be with you (even if he doesn’t say it out loud). Also, avoid driving him further from you by pestering him. These two tips alone can be quite effective to stop a breakup.
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